That’s a question I ask myself sometimes. Why four? Would you like to hear my super inspiring, highly scientific answer?
I don’t know. I just do.
Many people encouraged me to be done after two. I had a boy, I had a girl, what more could I want?
Even my mom suggested that I could stop after two…with my little sister in the room…who was her #3! #awkwardfamilymoments
Trust me, it is super tempting (in theory) to stop at one or two. If I had stopped at one, then I’d be done with diapers, done with having kids at home during the day, done with buckling into car seats, done with strollers, done with having to get him dressed.
If I had stopped at two, I’d be done with breastfeeding, bottles, formula, high chairs, and the inability to entertain with the handing over of an iPad.
If I was going to stop at three, I wouldn’t have another 9 months of pregnancy to look forward to, or another labor and delivery and recovery to get through.
If I didn’t have kids, I would be richer, freer, and more relaxed. But with kids life is warmer, happier, and full of love.
Before I go on, let me just say that I have ZERO judgement of people who decide to have only one or two kids, or who have 20 kids, or who decide that having kids just isn’t for them. It’s a personal decision that is nobody else’s business, if you decide not to share your reasoning.
But I know I would feel selfish. Like I was taking the easy way out. I don’t think people with fewer than four kids are selfish; I just know I would feel that way, knowing that I want, and can handle and support, four.
Four is where it’s at for us. We believe it will be a good fit financially, physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
I was never really someone who would give anything to have a boy and a girl. I was lucky enough to get both anyway, plus a second adorable little boy. …but now I desperately want another little girl, to balance out our numbers!
Here are some other reasons why I think four would be great:
*We would never need more than a three bedroom house- two people per room.
*We would all fit in our minivan and at our dining room table.
*The ratio of 1:2, parents to children seems pretty good.
*Two big kids to help with two little kids.
*If we go with the 2.5 year difference that we have done so far, then I will be done having kids by age 31, which puts me at 49 when my youngest graduates from high school. I like those numbers.
*I’m not ready to be done with the baby stage just yet.
*By the time I’m 32-33 I probably WILL be ready to be done with the baby stage.
But the main reason is “just because.” It’s what feels right.
So four it is!
One more to go!
…now watch me have twins.